DATE: 15-Dec-2018 (updated 17-Dec-18)
TO: Whom It May Concern
I have never met two women or girls who were identical. Likely because women, or girls, or femininity, aren't monoliths. Genetics and personal experience differ and can influence a person’s life. And, because of this, multitudes of different people exist and, therefore, exactly how is there a correct way to write a girl character or a woman character (or a boy or man, for that matter) when we're all at least a little different?
I'll add that the bravado contained within your post essentially saying “See here, what I did? Pay attention [males] you might learn something" (and why did you mention only males, by the way? is there not a level of presumption in doing so?) suggests something else to me entirely.
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Recently, I approached a panel of women speakers before an event. I wanted to apologize in advance, just in case I had to leave the presentation early. I did not want them to think I was being rude or was uninterested if I did have to leave. Guess what? They all—every one of them—presumed the cause and reason for my potential early departure was to watch a football game. (Not that it matters but for context, all of them were artists.) And here's the thing: I did not even know there was a football game being played that night—and therefore certainly had no clue the game was airing on TV. I don't know why they presumed I would be interested in a football game. Do you?
Later, during their panel discussion, when they started to discuss certain topics, after having engaged in a little pigeon-holing of me, I was fortunate to have additional context and experience in order to compare what they were saying to the audience with the recent action they had directed at me (and let me be clear: I understand we all do similarly). I will tell you, that incident offered me powerful reminders about stereotyping and prejudices and presumptions (and not only in context of gender). Furthermore, that brief encounter has fueled hours of writing material since it happened.
Y'all carry on.
xoxo, a white male in Kansas
Seasonal PSA: Peace and understanding on Earth. (Not on Mars. Mars can fuck off. Amirite?)
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